May We Not Forget: Transgender Day of Remembrance

{by Rev. Paul M. Turner, Gentle Spirit Christian Church of Atlanta}

Saturday is a day of mourning. It is not a day that is on the national calendar. In fact with the exception of a small percentage of people in this country, this day of mourning will pass completely unnoticed - the twelfth annual Transgender Day of Remembrance.

Those who take a moment and remember on this day will find themselves swinging between tears of grief and deep waves of anger not to mention a certain amount of fear of further attacks.

The devastating images of those viciously killed in 2010 for simply trying to be themselves is something we should remember, something that should burn in our souls.

The people we mourn for this day are apart of a community most would just as soon not deal with. Oh, we go to watch the drag shows and we have added a “T” to the GLB_Q, but still don’t take seriously enough that folks in the transgender community live in a very dangerous and unsupportive world.

While progress has been made, while things have gotten better, there is still a long ways to go and this community is still too often an afterthought.

These children of God find it extremely difficult to get jobs, get health care or any kind of support and dignity.

In fact in our fair city of Atlanta, the shelters are still not required to accept those who are in transition unless they are willing to accept being forcibly moved backwards in that transition.

People in transition walking down the street at the wrong time or in the wrong neighborhood stand a good chance of being stopped by the police and questioned about drugs, prostitution or both.

Most political leaders see the trans community as nothing more then a “political calculation.” Far too often transgender people are something to be added or subtracted from the political equation.

I still see far too many eyes roll or heads shake when the needs of the trans community are brought up in community meetings.

So even today the message continues to go out loud and clear…it is still open season on those who would dare to question traditional gender roles or transition from one sex to another.

We often forget is it was these folks who started the whole “gay rights” movement we know it today when they stood toe to high heel with the New York City police department at Stonewall.

We do not acknowledge nearly enough they have been with us every step of this bloody fight for our rights, our self-worth and our very souls.

It doesn't register that each day when they get out of bed and step into the world as themselves it may be their last day.

So on this day I implore you to remember the transgender community; pay attention to the day that has become known as “Transgender Day of Remembrance.”

May we who mourn and remember today take some comfort in these words:

"God is King, despite the chaos that may be roaring around us." (Psalm 93)

“If one member suffers, the whole body suffers…” (I Cor 12)

“Who will separate us from the love of Christ? Will hardship, or distress, or persecution, or famine, or nakedness, or peril, or sword? … Nothing in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord.” (Rom 8)

"Be still and know that I am God." (Psalm 46:10)

"The Lord takes care of me as his sheep; I will not be without any good thing. He makes a resting-place for me in the green fields: he is my guide by the quiet waters. He gives new life to my soul: he is my guide in the ways of righteousness because of his name. Yes, though I go through the valley of deep shade, I will have no fear of evil; for you are with me, your rod and your support are my comfort. You make ready a table for me in front of my haters: you put oil on my head; my cup is overflowing. Truly, blessing and mercy will be with me all the days of my life; and I will have a place in the house of the Lord all my days." Psalm 23

Saturday evening, here and all around the country may we find ourselves moved to pray.

May these prayers be for all of the victims, their family and friends.

May we pray for our government to have the wisdom, the courage and a God like response to this insanity. Let us pray for God's protection and a calming of theirs and our fears.

And may our prayers be accompanied by expressions of our faith – in which we are not conformed to the ways the world and how they will respond to children of God, but to the way the Christ would respond. May we be in our speech and actions the love of God.

Let us remember the words of Gwendolyn Ann Smith,

We have lost so many people in our community to the hand of hatred and prejudice, yet we still are not seemingly willing to fight back. Meanwhile, we die at the hands of a lover, of police, of medical practitioners, and even parents, while the news media calls us “freaks” — and worse.

In fact, the media’s reluctance to cover our deaths lies near the heart of this project. It can be all-but-impossible to find honest, reliable media on the death of a transgender person: It either does not exist (which is how one can cover thirty years of cases and still only have as many as I have to present), or it uses names that the deceased did not own, and pronouns that did not fit their reality.”


In the world we live in today there is no “safe way” to be transgender: Some are living very out lives, and some are living fully “stealth” lives. Some are identifying as male, some as female and some as both and neither. Some lived in small towns, and some in major metropolitan areas.

There are things we can do and must do if the killing is to stop. I would encourage our community and friends to:

• Let us educate ourselves about transgender issues.

• Let us be aware of our attitudes concerning people with gender-atypical appearance or behavior.

• Let us make more than a good faith effort to use names and pronouns that are appropriate to the person’s gender presentation and identity.

• Let us not make assumptions about transgender people’s sexual orientation, desire for surgical or hormonal treatment, or other aspects of their identity or transition plans.

• Let us keep the lines of communication open with the transgender person (s) in our lives.

• Let us become more aware of the things which would make life easier and the transition smoother, i.e. markers on drivers licenses, applications and forms.

• Let us not just sit on our lack of knowledge and understanding. Let us seek out support in dealing with our feelings. This is the 21st century and there are plenty of resources for us to get help.

Finally but not least let us turn out in mass this Saturday evening at the State Capital to show the “T” really is apart of LGBTQ and it does not stand-alone. I know it is Saturday night but we were enraged when they raided our bar can we not also comfort our friends in their loss?


Here is the list of those who were taken from this world far too soon in the United States and Mexico.
The entire list can be seen at: http://www.transgenderdor.org/?page_id=1194

1) Mariah Malina Qualls
Location: San Francisco, California
Cause of Death: Blunt force trauma to the head.
Date of Death: December 9, 2009
Mariah was 23 years old
Sources: http://www.ktvu.com/news/22015154/detail.html


2) Estrella (Jose Angel) Venegas
Location: Mexicali, Mexico
Cause of Death: Shot in the chest and the forehead
Date of Death: December 13, 2009
Estrella was 32 years old
Sources: Estrella’s brother.


3) Myra Chanel Ical
Location: Houston, Texas
Cause of Death: Many wounds and defensive bruises.
Date of Death: January 18, 2010
Myra was 51 years old.
Source: http://www.myfoxhouston.com/dpp/news/local/100120-partially-clothed-folo

4) Amanda Gonzalez-Andujar
Location: Queens, New York
Cause of Death: Strangled
Date of Death: March 27, 2010
Amanda was 29 years old.
Source: http://www.nydailynews.com/news/ny_crime/2010/04/01/2010-04-01_choked_to_death.html

5) Toni Alston
Location: Charlotte, North Carolina
Cause of Death: shot to death
Date of Death: April 3, 2010
Toni was 44 years old.
Source: http://www.charlotteobserver.com/2010/04/14/1375123/family-asks-for-info-in-mans-killing.html

6) Chanel (Dana A. Larkin)
Location: Milwaukee, Wisconsin
Cause of Death: Shot in the head
Date of Death: May 7, 2010
Chanel was 26 years old.
Source: http://www.edgeboston.com/index.php?ch=news&sc=&sc2=news&sc3=&id=105882

7) Sandy Woulard
Location: Chicago, Illinois
Cause of Death: Shot in the chest
Date of Death June 21, 2010
Sandy was 28 years old.
Source: Chicago Sun Times (The victim was identified as Credale Woulard)
http://www.edgelosangeles.com/index.php?ch=news&sc=&sc2=news&sc3=&id=107516

8) Antonio Jones III
Location: Southampton, NY
Cause of Death: Punched repeatedly and grabbed by the neck
Date of Death: August 1, 2010
Roy was 16 Months old.
Note: 20 year old Pedro Jones told police he had struck the infant several times with a closed fist. Jones said he was “trying to make him act like a boy instead of a little girl.”
Source: http://tiny.cc/rw69f

9) Gypsy
Location: Houston, Texas
Cause of Death: shot to death
Date of Death: September 6, 2010
Source: Cristan Williams via the Houston Police Department


10) Victoria Carmen White
Location Maplewood, New Jersey
Cause of Death shot
Date of Death September 12, 2010
Victoria was 28 years old.
Source: http://www.baristanet.com/2010/09/maplewood-murder-victim-transgender-female/

http://www.news12.com/articleDetail.jsp?articleId=261210&position=1&news_type=n

May God have mercy…

Comments

[(Psuedonym)]

As one who has very often felt very transgendered, this is a closely touching article. Let us forgive and love: doing unto other as we would have them do unto us. Lest we become like them and, in doing so, become what they fear (in themselves).
Love God with all your heart, mind, soul, and strength. As well, your neighbour as yourself.
This is all I can say besides "be smart".

[anton veenstra]

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