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Big Question: Gay Sex

[MyOutSpirit.com members share their "Big Questions" with the community, and the community helps them work out answers.]

fairwesr's Big Question is about gay sex:

"Understanding sexuality. I have yet to experience love with a gay man with a sense of wholeness and positivity. It feels important that I explore the sense of sexual attraction I feel so deeply, but only in a way which is spiritually and personally fulfilling and affirming. I set the intention for such experiences to be magnetized to me."

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Maybe it's finally Spring here in Michigan, because sex has been on MY mind a lot, lately, too.  I just wrote a MyOutSpirit.com Soapbox column on the topic for PrideSource:

"SEX SPIRIT CIRCUS"

Whether it comes to "getting off" or "getting God," lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender people know their stuff.

We have developed a highly sexualized and sex-positive gay culture and, at the same time, many LGBT people are deeply religious or deeply spiritual. The problem starts when we perceive these two aspects of LGBT life - sexuality and spirituality - as mutually exclusive.

BRAVE NEW WORLD: MyOutSpirit Member Spotlight

After traveling the world with Desmond Tutu, young Gay spiritual activist, Ryan Olson (check out his MyOutSpirit profile here), is preparing for a trip next month to Africa to volunteer with A HAND IN HEALTH, a nonprofit organization promoting quality healthcare and education in Gambia (see Gay.com News: Gambia to gays: Leave or die). 

Ryan is so passionate about this experience that, even though he just graduated from college a couple of weeks ago, he took out a $3500 loan to pay for his trip!  Ryan says, "I needed to do some spiritual cleansing and healing for myself and I thought, what better way than to have an experience that I know will change my life forever."

Ryan Olson is an emerging leader with an already impressive resume and an incredibly bright future.  Get to know him from his MyOutSpirit.com profile:

"I never fit into a social scene, gay or straight because I'm one of those people that is constantly outside of myself. OKay, okay, well I shouldn't say I don't fit in, cause I am the person that when I walk in a room, most people tend to know who I am. And yet I feel this awkward silence in my heart around a lot of things, because I feel so much more for my life that is hard to express in this world.

"In a gay venue, I can't really find the space to talk about my greater self; my life, my spiritual aspects of who I am or my deepest passions and desires.

"In the straight venue, much is still superficial, but when I can talk about my spirituality I can't talk about how divinity has helped me to come to terms with my own sexuality. I can't say Jesus helped my to be gay to my christian friends. It's so interesting.

"Anyway, all in all, I'm a person who cares, who loves, who feels and who is moved by life's mysteries. I am moved in a way that challenges me to seek beauty in all things that come along my road of life. To challenge my biases and stereotypes of the world and the way I've been raised to understand it.

"I'm a person who believes it is my duty and social responsibility to stand up for what I believe in, which beyond anything is love. The love for one human being to another whether in a sincere friendship or a deep and abiding intimate interpersonal relationship. I am that person that believes so strongly in that I would even give my life for those beliefs.